Rites of passage are mostly about loving self and this is a lifelong process.
Wisdom of Mary Magdalene
“Yes, you are right to call this a rite of passage. It is your journey to love yourself when you make mistakes and to take responsibility for your choices and risk hurting those you love. It is your path to own your mistakes without being a mistake. It is your path to own your shadows and to be able to love yourself through these challenging times and wounded places.
When you can have compassion for all of who you are and all of who you are not, when you can care gently for yourself, when your behavior has been careless and without discernment, when you can warmly welcome yourself back into your own arms, when you’ve behaved badly and hurt those you care deeply about, then you can offer this healing mercy to another.
This is your journey, dear sister. It is to love completely every crack and crevice of your soul that is dark and wounded and prefers to remain hidden. This is where the glory lies. From here, you will heal all those you touch.
Come to us. We will love you completely when you are unable to love yourself. Then do the same for others.”