Seeking Help, Surrender, Support

July 18^th

Surrendering our frailties opens us to Divine power and wisdom.

Wisdom of Mary Magdalene

There is a balance between what I can do and what I must surrender for Divine intervention and healing. In my spiritual practice, I learn to keep my emotional, physical, relational, financial and spiritual life full of integrity and harmony. I do my part. I take responsibility for these areas of my life.

There are some aspects of each of these realms, however, where it is necessary to ask for help and recognize that the outcome is out of my control. During these moments of discernment, I seek spiritual guidance and support. If I have done my part and adjusted my behavior, then often times a spiritual solution is called for and, I, in my humility and wisdom, seek it. This often occurs for me when I am personally challenged with a behavior in my relationship with myself or another that I simply cannot seem to change on my own. Knowing some wounds/shadows run deep or accepting there are karmic energies beyond my understanding and control has been necessary. I seek a Power greater than myself in these times.


Today a friend called for support. She and I have had a close and challenging, at times, relationship. As I listened to the situation for which she was troubled, I recognized a pattern that I have seen in her life, relationships and even in our friendship emerge again. When she asked for my feedback and perspective in the situation, I gave it to her straight. I told her from my perspective she was "running away" again from a difficult situation because she was scared and her justification for doing so is that the other persons involved are bad and wrong. So many gifts emerged from this situation for me.


First of all, asking for help and knowing we need a community of support is essential to living an honest, fulfilling life. My friend's reaching out for help gives me the courage to do the same when times call for it. 


Secondly, we cannot see the deep patterns and shadows of our own wounds on our own. We need one another to help. To ask for feedback from someone who knows us well and be open to hear an honest assessment is a testament of courage and self-love in action. My friend has inspired me to remember that I need other people, too, and my commitment to spiritual and emotional maturity is stronger than my ego need to be right or "look good" on the outside. 


Lastly, these deep shadows and patterns of survival that we carry within us are reenacted in our lives and relationships with others. Not only do we need people in our lives that love us with all these shadows in tact, but also we must have a spiritual connection that we can seek assistance from and release these pattern to in the hopes of healing. While sometimes Spirit speaks to us through those that love and know us intimately, the real miracle comes from surrender to this Higher Power and allowing transformation within so that we can change the survival patterns and live the live we deeply desire. 


Asking for help, receiving honest feedback and seeking Spiritual intervention are foundations for living a full and spiritual centered life. How wonderful that we have the choice to create this in our lives and to live authentically. 

Embracing our Shadows

Shadows reflect our light...

“One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light,” said Carl Jung, “but by making the darkness conscious.” As the originator of the concept of “shadow” Carl Jung first brought into our cultural consciousness the necessity of loving ourselves through bringing to consciousness what is in the unconscious. This applies especially to the most unlovable and dark parts that we have worked diligently to hide, repress and deny. As a certified Shadow Work® facilitator and author of a book on the Sacred Feminine, I work with these energies and create environments that allow individuals to explore their darker side. With Sacred Feminine principles, we surrender to it all and know that the connection between dark and light, pain and joy, sickness and health is symbiotic. We cannot experience one without the other. Stepping into my own darkness and creating circles that invite others to do the same are the environments that I play, teach and learn within. These are the circles that I facilitate and allow myself to be facilitated within to continue my own emotional and spiritual maturity and trust my darkness to the light.

In “Blessings From Mary” my most recent book, I explore 9 Sacred Feminine Principles and offer daily meditations that lead one to their Divine Purpose. Here I share some ideas inspired by Carl Jung which encourage us to embrace those “dark” emotions rather than avoid and run from them. In an age and culture that prescribes to a quick fix from discomfort: physical, emotional and spiritual, it’s not always an appealing invitation to explore and embrace our shadows. We think if we are feeling good then we are living well and if we are feeling grieve, despair, fear or shame there must be something wrong.

Sacred Feminine spirituality encourages us to meet all of ourselves with open heart and allow our wounds to inform us of all we have to offer. Our woundedness and shadows teach us about our giftedness. In our full embrace of the hurts, pain, “feel-bad” emotions we carry, we also embrace our compassion, joy and deepest sense of self. In the Sacred Feminine perspective, we hold our darkness with comfort, care and a willingness to surrender. In our darkness, we find brilliance, wisdom and authenticity.

From this fullness, we give to others. Our fully experienced grief, fear and pain open our hearts and bring us the unexpected gifts of gratitude, joy and a deepened capacity to love ourselves and others.

Loving our Shadows

I notice today how easy it is to love my beauty and how challenging to embrace my darkness. Sometimes I behave badly. I make choices that hurt myself and others and then the consequences of those choices leave me with myself, my character defects, my shadows and my darkness. I am grateful that I learn to share these dark places with others that love me and with a Higher Power. Humility is the great outcome of surrendering all of who we are and allowing ourselves to be loved when we feel we deserve it the least.

Learning to love the most hidden and shameful parts of ourselves requires great courage.

Wisdom of Mary Magdalene

“Yes, this is true. We are able to love you, to see you, to know you in ways you are unable to see and know yourself. This is the great gift that we offer and the gift that you resist most.

Learning to love yourself and the places hidden deep within, of which there is the most fear and shame, is the greatest challenge of the spiritual life. It requires great courage. It requires admitting those parts are there. It requires clearing off the cobwebs and digging them out of the cellar and attic and exposing those parts to light.

In the light, there is remembrance, there is pain, there is self-loathing and there is self-hatred. There are tightly wound memories of the painful loss, anger, fear and shame we carry within.

Coming to us means coming to light, and coming to light means peeling off the ways we have kept hidden. It requires loving a part of ourselves we have wanted to forget. It means honoring a part of ourselves we want to keep in the dark.

The courage, willingness and commitment you have to come to us will be rewarded. Bringing to light all the places of hidden pain and woundedness will reap great and lasting rewards.

Your courage will reap freedom. Your willingness will reap great compassion and your commitment to serve will bring healing to the masses.

We love you. Trust your darkness to our light.”

Loving our Darkness invites the light.....

There are moments when I wonder if old resentments, jealousy, fear and blame will always be with me. As I mature in my own spiritual and emotional intelligence, joy and fulfillment are more a part of my thinking, feeling and behaving, yet, there are moments when old resentments and jealousies surface.

On this journey of embracing Sacred Feminine Spirituality and deepening my own connection to living my Divine purpose, I am reminded that I can not become what I truly desire unless I am willing to honestly embrace my own humanness. I must begin by being with "what is" and especially with "what I resist." Then I embrace and love myself in this darkness. The old jealousies, resentments and wounded thinking are the places calling forth my deepest love and mercy.

Here is the reading from BLESSINGS From MARY on July 25th. It speaks to the continued honest acknowledgement of our shadows and character defects. From this self honesty, we are able to embrace and love our own darkness. We then surrender to Divine mercy and healing.

July 25^th

Loving our darkness invites the light.

Wisdom of Mary Magdalene

I thanked Mary today for choosing me as her messenger and brought her my gratitude and humility. Mary responds with,

“I have chosen you as you have chosen me. As you come to us you will clear the space so that you can receive from us the blessings and messages to carry in the world. As you have cleared out past patterns and pains from your own soul work and embraced your own unique spiritual path, you’ve chosen me. With that, you have chosen your purpose and you’ve chosen your destiny.

It is all a result of your surrendering to Divine Source. It is all a result of doing your part to embrace and release the places of pain and hurt. From deep within our greatest challenges come and from deep within, our unique and most profound gifts also come.

Do you see? Loving the darkest places within allows for the transformation into blessings and mercy for all. This is your soul work to do. As a result, you’ve invited us in. Now is the time to take these messages to others to bring them to light, blessing and mercy for their darkest places. Each has their own unique messages to share with others as well.

You have chosen me. I have chosen you. Together we manifest gifts and blessings for all. It is part of Divine destiny, my sister, my child, my friend.”